Adjusting to a new baby

By Kristen Bourgeois

We recently welcomed our third child in December.  A little girl. Those first few weeks are so precious, but also a bit stressful as we adjusted to a family of five. I didn’t want the new routines or the lack of routines to rob us of our joy with this new baby. As we navigated the fourth trimester, I was reminded of a few things.

Things take longer. Simple tasks like doing the dishes or folding clothes just take longer.  It can be frustrating, but that’s just the reality. Being patient is most helpful. My worth isn’t determined by how many tasks I can get done.

That newborn phase can be lonely. It’s the nighttime feedings that were the loneliest for me. But reaching out beyond my comfort zone to other moms to share about common mom struggles has been incredibly helpful.

I’ve had to change my expectations and learn to prioritize remembering I cannot do all the things. Asking for help, receiving help and choosing the help that works best for our family is key.

Mommin’ ain’t easy! Each season has different challenges. I’ve learned to change my prayer from asking God to take difficulties away to asking God to help me bear this struggle.

And most important, deep breathes. Taking them and enjoying this precious time.