My Fiat Moment
By Ty Salvant
Recently, Derrick and I discovered that we were expecting another baby. While it took a minute to wrap our heads around being parents of seven children, by the time our first doctor’s appointment arrived, I was ready. It was early, really early – too early to detect a heartbeat, but certainly, enough to see the beginning of our baby.
Some of the early conversations I had with myself included our large family size, our schedule and the increased odds of complications due to my advanced maternal age. But I was ready.
My internal conversation shifted to how I was being asked to do something that not all women are asked to do, not all are willing to do – to accept having another baby closer to 50 than 40. I was ready.
I was intentional about the beautiful blue dress I wore for my fiat moment. Because of previous experiences, I was cautiously optimistic and, yet, fully expected to have the first of many pictures of our beautiful baby.
Unfortunately, that was not the case. We discovered that we were in fact in the process of a miscarriage instead. With lots of prayers, support from friends and family, we are healing and accepting our new reality.
While painful, there was so much fruit from this experience, too. Sharing this news with the children provided opportunities for them to care for mom in a non-typical way. My oldest even checked in on me three different times to make sure that I was okay.
Being nurtured and cared for during my time of need allowed another glimpse of how God is good, all the time, and all the time, God is good.