If You Struggle with Perfection, This is for You
By Courtney Elmer
“80% perfect is perfect Courtney.”⠀⠀⠀⠀
This is what my dad would tell me when I was a girl. He saw my inner perfectionist and knew that in my quest for doing things 100% right all the time,
I’d stress myself out over the 20% that didn’t matter to anyone else anyway.
My personality type is prone to perfectionism, so I tended to take what he said with a grain of salt. In the meantime, I’d burn myself out trying to do everything “right” and get it “perfect.” It was exhausting.
Then, one day, it was like the lights switched on, and I FINALLY understood what he‘d been telling me all these years: that 80% is perfect enough.
That I am enough.
That I‘m worth more than what I do, or how “right” I do it.
That’s the day I set myself free, and I’ve been focusing on the “80% Solution” ever since.
I admit it’s not always easy, but when I remind myself that I am intrinsically worth more than what I “do” or “accomplish,” my soul relaxes a bit and my mind is put at ease.
Do you struggle with perfection? Do you find you procrastinate, worried about doing things perfectly or waiting ‘til things are right before you start? (You’re not alone! You’re looking at a recovering perfectionist for life right here.)
If your life feels full of all the wrong things like busywork and mindless to do’s, then take some time to explore where you’re placing your self-worth.
Are you measuring your self-worth and satisfaction based on whether or not you’ve reached your goals?
Could it be possible the person you’re competing with is an idealized version of yourself that you will never quite live up to?
These are the tough questions to ask and answer, but necessary ones to help you identify whether you’re placing your worth in what you do … or who you are.